“We Are Family” (5)

We had Parent’s Evening this week…..

and when I say I love this guy, I LOVE THIS GUY! He is amazing ❤

We are fam 5

This is our first one since he has started his GCSE journey.  He has been stressing a little bit, as you do, but especially about English.  He’s good at it, but his writing isn’t the clearest.  I spoke to the new SENCo about getting him assessed for Dyslexia, which tends to go hand in hand with Aspergers as well as Dyspraxia. The dyspraxia side we are waiting for an Occupational Therapist appointment to start the process.  I’m checking all areas just in case, whether I feel he has them or not, because I want to be able to support him in any which way that I can, in order for him to be the best that he can be.

Due to my son being high functioning, he is super clever and conversation with him is not necessarily what you would expect.  So, walking around the school, talking to the teachers and hearing how they spoke about him was really interesting.  It appears that even teachers who don’t actually teach him knew him some way or another. This could be anything from his art work, his interest in music, him being a part of Debate Mate or conversations they have with him.  What a blessing he is to so many ❤

But the best part of the evening was hearing the teacher’s speak greatness into him just like I do.  They genuinely want him to do well.  They see the greatness that I see in him and it was lovely.

Me and his secondary schools have had battles, due to their lack of understanding of him.  He likes some things a particular way and these things may appear to be rebellious to teachers and they used to try and challenge him all the time; and then here comes me lol!  Listen, let me tell you something, you see me, I’m cool, but don’t play with me and mine.  I laced them with complaints and I don’t have no qualms bringing in outside professionals to deal with them neither.  I’m not going to go into the school all guns blazing, that’s not my style.  I’ll keep that shit on paper, so it’s documented.  My son didn’t have a support plan in place for how long.  I weren’t having that!

After a number of incidents, one including a teacher who refused to call me “Miss Ebanks” or “Shomari’s Mum” when she addressed me, even though I made it clear that is way I like it (long story), they are no longer allowed to call my phone.  All correspondence has to be in written form, either via text, post or email.  You can’t chat to me if you can’t put no “Respeck on my name!” Thanks to Birdman for saying it so clear.  I live that shit!

Besides all of that, we now have an understanding and he seems a lot more settled.  So at present, all is well 🙂

All I can do for now, is to help him practice his handwriting and be there for him if he needs anything.  It’s a stressful time for him right now but he’s cool.

I hope you enjoyed today’s story.  Feel free to share any stories you may have or ask any questions.  Don’t be a stranger.

Until next time.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx

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It’s All About Me

Hi all and thank you for coming to join me lol!

I just thought I’d introduce myself to you all so you know a little bit about me and hopefully you come and join me on my journey through life:

I am a Spa Management student who has just completed her first year at university who desires to break into the industry and would also like to go mobile.  I have had loads of work experience in all different fields over the years including hospitality, health and social care,  and property.  I even launched a business a couple years ago, prematurely, if I’m being honest with you.  In hindsight, I wasn’t fully prepared, so initially I went to university to study Business Enterprise but I found it very “dry” for me so I transferred my degree to the one I’m on now and absolutely love it!

During this summer, I am doing a paid 10 week internship with Project Brum via Birmingham City Council to help promote health, fitness and wellbeing around Birmingham.  This will be good for me as health and fitness complements the treatments that we provide within a spa environment.  I am also doing an intensive course for me to complete my Level 2 and Level 3 in Beauty Therapy via The Training Room alongside my internship separately for 12 weeks.  I invested in this in order to improve my employability.  Going into the industry as a “mature” non therapist is difficult as you are required to have a Level 3 even as a Spa Receptionist. So I thought this may help me find a job within a spa setting so I can see first hand how they are run, and also so I don’t lose my skills.

On a personal note, I’m a 33 year old mother to an amazing 14 year old son who was diagnosed with Aspergers in 2015 and we have been fighting with the school to have him supported how he should.  Horrible feeling when other people don’t love and care for your child like you do.  Single at present and very busy but I make time for whatever and whoever I feel is important.  Currently working on my fitness and enjoying my life as much as possible no matter what the circumstance.

Now you know me,  I want to get to know you too.  Feel free to share your stories with me and one another.  We can inspire each other.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx