“We Are Family” (11)

we are fam 11

Being a mum has been the most rewarding job I have ever had but it is hard sometimes. It develops a strength in you that you may not have thought you originally had, especially when facing hard times.

I am so thankful that have my son.  He gives me a reason to stay focused and keep it pushing through anything that comes my way.

We’ve been through so many ups and downs over the years and knowing that no matter what is going on, I have look after him, keeps me motivated.

Times when I’m feeling low or burned out, I know I need rest but I can’t stay down too long.

Times when things don’t seem to be working out how I’d like, I have to find another way forward.

Times when I need to smile, he may say something to me that reassures me that I’m doing a good job, whether he realises the impact of what he said or not.

When I think back to when had him at 18, I wasn’t around anyone else who was having children until I moved into a mother and baby unit, due to me not being able to stay living with my mum, as she wasn’t well.  My son and I left home and moved out of our familiar areas when he was 3 1/2 weeks old.  The mother and baby unit was like a hostel for mothers and babies, where you share a flat with another mother and child with 24 hour staff, midwives and stay and play.  I stayed there for 6 months before moving onto my second.

The second hostel was further out again with staff on site from early morning until 9pm Monday – Friday.  We had our own little flats and were taught to be more independent, preparing us for when we moved into our own properties.  I learnt a lot and met quite a few people that I am still in touch with.

I’ve been living in this house I’m in now for 13 1/2 years and is the longest place ever lived consistently throughout my whole life.  That may sound stable and I suppose it is in comparison to some but I’ve never had it how I want it.  That is something I am always working on.  To be honest, I’m hoping to move out of it soon.  It is something I scarily look forward to.  My neighbours have watched me and my son grow up and evolve into the people we are today.  When we first moved here, I was 21 and my son was 2 1/2 years old.  There have been loads of memories and ghost of old faces attached to this house but I am looking forward to moving on,  I need a fresh space.

I digress … the point I was making was, there is no rule book to parenting and believe me I have tried and continue to try to be the best the mum I can.  I’ve watched others, read books and took courses over the years to help me.  I only had one cousin who had three children at a young at the time and I used to visit him and his girlfriend often before I even thought about having a baby, so I knew it wasn’t going to be easy.  None of my school friends or siblings had children, so it was a lonely path at times.  But I took on the sole responsibility and have kept persevering.

If I didn’t have any more children in future, I wouldn’t be upset because I have one and he is amazing ❤ but the idea is lovely ❤

There are things I would like to experience such as parenting as a couple.  Like, both of you maybe planning it all, being there at the birth and both sharing the responsibility with both parent’s input.  Even though I have done it alone for the most part, TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK!  I would just love to know what that would be like.  Single parent households seems way too common.  I would like to be with someone who wants to break the mold and we can show each other something different.

Apologies if I went off a little bit, I just write what’s on my mind at the time.

I hope you enjoyed today’s post and if there is anything you would like to share, please feel free.

Until next time.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx

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“I Can Transform Ya” (4)

It’s been a while guys but I couldn’t write a post until I had some results to show 👀

I’ve dropped 18.4 lbs so far and I have to say that I am so proud of me 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I started out writing my first weight loss blog on the 19th December 2017. In all honesty, it was not the best timing. We had Christmas, New Years and January Blues but I started a fresh on 7th February 2018 and have been consistent with it since then. I’m happy with my achievement so far but I’m most proud of the fact that I had a recent upset that could have set me right back to emotional eating. In the past, getting the munchies in and/ or a good takeaway would bring me some sort of comfort but I didn’t succumb to it! I remained focused 🏆 I didn’t want to harm myself just because someone hurt me. So I didn’t.

This journey is one that I have to take one day at a time. Breaking bad habits that you have developed over years is so hard! In the last couple of months I have cut out the biscuits, snacks and just try not to generally over indulge. It seems to be working so far 😁

Within the last couple of months, I tried a few things:

– Herbalife for the first 4 weeks with which I managed to lose 9 lbs. That wasn’t too bad but found it expensive to re- up.

– Self control from week 5 up until last week in which I lost 9.4 lbs in total.

– Last week I thought I’d try SlimFast to assist me and see how it goes. I put on 0.2 lbs so I’ll see if I get better results next week.

– And finally I re-joined the gym again today. It’s Bhangra Burnoff tonight 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 and I’m looking forward to it.

I aim to check in with you all on the 1st June with an update and possibly a progress picture. Wish me luck ☺️

I hope you enjoyed today’s post and feel free to share anything that slows you down from losing weight and reaching your goals. Also, if you have any tips on what works or has worked for you, please share.

Until next time.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx