“I Can Transform Ya” (2) – The Family Time Aftermath

Boxing Day pic

As you can probably guess, I haven’t been following the best eating plan during this time.   I’m not upset though because I enjoyed myself for the most part but it was bittersweet.

In my last Family Time blog post, I explained that in my little family unit, I was the head.  I have lived the role of somewhat carer, and supporter for some which has resulted in me feeling as if I have to be inclusive with most things that I do.  This is not always reciprocated and I don’t understand why.  So while I’m including people in mine, they go off and do their own thing with no invitations extended this way.  I’m not even overly talking about friends, I’m talking so called FAMILY.  It leaves me feeling sad when I should be feeling happy and full of love.

Today’s message is not necessarily about any pounds lost and steps I have clocked up this week, but more about well-being.  The way this time of year can make you feel, as it is not a positive time for all.  I cooked all day for two days straight, to feed those I felt like I loved, and then ended up going back and forth about who is doing the dessert or whose washing the dishes …. Really?  Is this what it has come to?

While some have many “Christmases” in one day by way of turning up to people’s houses and picking up a plate at each place they land, this is my only one.  So having one of your guests come over, for instance, who can’t even eat because they’re too full before arriving is very disheartening.  I think I’m just tired of it all now. I’m aware that not everyone thinks like me but communication, courtesy and respect doesn’t exist for some.  But I’ll tell you something right now, this is not happening to me again if I can help it!  I’ve been thinking of things I can possibly do differently in future:

  • Invest in paper plates, cups, cutlery and disposable baking trays.  Black bag all of that!
  • Only those who are invited by me, or whoever is hosting, may attend.  No drop-ins.
  • Consider eating out for dinner.
  • Lastly, I would really love to just be out of the country full stop!

Since I woke early this afternoon, I’ve been busying myself writing down ideas for my business and changes I want to make in my life .  In turn, I decided to convert my negative energy into positive energy towards myself by way of a treat day:

  • First of all, my girl came through on Family Time Eve and she cut my hair for me but I just made a change to my fringe because I wasn’t feeling the one she gave me.
  • I’m currently enjoying a generous slice of Black Forest Gateau as we speak – yum yum ❤
  • And once I finish up today’s post, I’ll be giving myself a mani and pedi.

The thought of it is making me feel better already 🙂

In terms of health and fitness plans for the week ahead, I had a friend hit me up on Whatsapp about an app called SweatCoin where you can earn money depending on the number of steps you clock up, apparently.  Sounds good to me!  I’ve downloaded it already and I will be trying it out.  I’ll make a note to show you guys next week what I found.  I will also try to return to my diet plan tomorrow.

Anyway, if you have any experiences or feelings you want to share about this time of year, good or bad, I would love to hear them.  If you have any suggestions or tips on things you do to make yourself feel better when things get you down, please share them also.

Thanking everyone who has been supporting me so far, I really appreciate it.  Until next time.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx


“I Can Transform Ya” (1)

Today is the day!  The day I start my new health, fitness, weight loss and well being journey.

This is me in all my glory.   On a regular Sunday, around the house, cooking and cleaning.  Face not beat.  Hair not slicked.  Showing all I have to offer.  Looking hencher from the back than some of the mandem lol!  Belly so heavy now, I can’t see my curves from the front.  Bwoi!

I’ve been meaning to take my before pictures for a while and thought if I don’t get it out of the way now, I don’t know when I’ll do it. I’m not making fun of myself because I’m trying to make a change, that’s just the way I talk.  It is what it is.  But I thought I would share this time around, for accountability on my part, and for possible support and motivation for everyone else.


Before pic

I have managed to lose 4.5 lbs over the last few weeks and I am now 238 lbs, that’s 17st.  This is the heaviest I have ever been!  My weight has gone up and down over the years and this is going to be hard for me.  Weight for me has been a way to avoid attention and a form of protection from being hurt.  I could go about my day as if I was near enough invisible but right now, I am ready to live my best life and feel free enough to do so.

Food on the other hand, food is EVERYTHING!

  • Comfort
  • The way I socialise
  • When I get money, I go to eat
  • When I’m feeling low
  • Most all, PLEASURE ❤

Did you notice that I never mentioned health?  This is what I’m working towards, eating for health.  None of the reasons to eat that I’ve mentioned above are wrong as long as healthy choices makes up the majority of my diet.

My ultimate goal is 10.5 stones, that was my weight after having my son.  But in all honesty, I’ve been carrying extra weight with me so long I don’t know how I would feel being so small so I would have to see how I feel as I begin dropping the weight.  I have managed to lose weight more than once before but would find myself sabotaging my progress when I noticed changes in my body for some reason that I didn’t understand too much before but I get it now and will take it one day at a time.


  1. I have enlisted the help of a friend from primary school who has recently qualified as a personal trainer (IG: Jenfiyahdance).   She has created a diet plan for me to follow for my first month to begin with.
  2. I will try my best to incorporate water into my diet.  As a beauty therapist, we advise clients to have 1.5- 2 litres of water a day and it has always been something I have struggled to do myself.
  3. Increase my physical activity by at least 15 minutes a day to start off with.  That should be achievable for me going from hardly any exercise.  I actually like walking, but the weather is not the best at the moment so I found a restorative yoga and meditation on YouTube that I want to try.  The stretching will be good for my sciatica and is quite a relaxing practice.
  4. Eat as natural as possible to control sugar and salt content.
  5. Most importantly, not to get weighed every week.  Every day is not going to be a good day, and my weight will fluctuate so it’s better for me to check my progress either every couple of weeks or even monthly.

Well, that’s me and I hope you enjoy my weekly posts.  If you have any tips, stories or experiences to share that would be great. Until next time.

Forever learning and evolving,

Elisha xxx